Ok, so I’m not Carmen, but I have been MIA for a while now on this blog. Life got in the way. Honestly, blogging is a lot of work. If you’re not doing it full time and getting paid for it, at some point, the motivation drops a little. Our house has been just a whirlwind of activity that whenever I have a free moment, I want to spend it with Chris, or vegging in front of the tv.
Every time something big happened, I kept making a mental note “this should be a blog post” and then more and more stuff was happening and I felt I wouldn’t be able to keep up with all the posts I had told myself I’d write. So I kind of started avoiding it altogether. I get that way with housework as well. It’s one of my fatal flaws. A room looks like a disaster area and then I just shut it out of my mind completely. I’ve been working on it. Trying to keep up with the clutter never realizing I was doing the same with mental clutter.
Anyways, before going too deep into psychoanalysis, I figured I’ll do a bullet form of what’s been happening.
1- The BIG ONE! Henry is potty trained! It’s been about 6 weeks now. He just decided one morning “no more diapers” and that was it. He had a few accidents in the first couple of days, but since then, he’s been excellent. Now he still sleeps with a diaper. He kind of fights us on that one. He doesn’t want to wear one, but the two times we let him have his way led us to cleaning sheets and stuffed animals at 5:30 in the morning. I’m still trying to figure out a way to wake him up to go when we got to bed, but once Henry’s out, he’s out. Having only one kid in diapers is slightly euphoric. For the first few days, I didn’t know what to do with myself. Also, for those first few days, having Henry in underwear was like having a live grenade in the house. Pretty much every second sentence out of our mouths were “do you have to go potty?”. Even now, it’s still one of my most commonly used sentences along with “don’t hit your brother” and “you have to eat your dinner before having a cookie, those are the rules!” Can I also take a second to say how freakingly adorable little underwear are? Henry has some sesame street underwear and some Avengers underwear and every time I pull them out in the morning, I have a moment of “geez these are cute”, they’re just so tiny!
2- BIG DEAL NUMBER 2: Freddy is walking. He started walking around pretty much the same time Henry started using the potty. I guess the Ward competitive spirit lives on in my boys and Freddy didn’t want to be outshone by his potty using older brother so he decided “alright, time to step it up, I’m walking!”. I have to admit, I did feel a bit of pride when people would say “he’s only 10 months and walking? Wow that’s young!” and I’d say “oh he’s playing catch-up with his brother” but inside I was like “that’s right! My little man is awesome!” I know walking early doesn’t make one smarter or more mentally advanced than those who start walking at 1, but I couldn’t help thinking that anyways. Nowadays, Freddy is just motoring everywhere. He’s a really fast walker even if he still looks like he’s slightly drunk and wobbly when walking.
3- I’m back at work. I’ve been back at work for a month now. I came back earlier than with Henry because I shared a month of leave at the beginning with Chris. I’m glad I shared with him that time given how sick Henry ended up being when Freddy was born, but at the same time, I wish I had a bit more time with Freddy before going back to work. I didn’t think there would be a big difference for him, between starting daycare at 11 months vs 12 months. I quickly learned that the difference was I could have had an extra month of trying to get him to sleep on his own. Daycare integration was rough on Freddy. He’s doing better now but he’s sleeping about 45-60 minutes a day at daycare and it’s not a deep sleep. He’s restless and when I get home, he cries and cries and cries until I hold him. I used to nurse him right when I got home but then he’d practically fall asleep around 5pm and then would be up for good at 3:30-4:00am. It’s a bad cycle that we’re slowly getting out of. I just nurse him before bedtime now, which is 6pm. He can’t stay up later than that. He’s just exhausted. I’m trying to get him to stay up a bit later so that he sleeps a bit longer in the morning but 6pm seems to be his cut off time. Even 6pm is pushing it, given that he freaks out from 5:30-6:00… For the past two days though he’s been sleeping in until 5-5:30 which, trust me, is AMAZING! I feel much more rested.
4- Chris has started a new job. (I told you, LOTS AND LOTS of stuff happened). He accepted a position with Industry Canada as a junior examining officer. He’s in an intense 3 month training period right now which is part of a larger 2 year program in which when he successfully completes it, he’ll be bumped up to a senior examining officer. It’s a developmental position. I’m so happy for him. He’s no longer working in some industrial park in the booneys of Gatineau but in downtown Hull. He got all excited about the prospect of eating out for lunch given that there was nothing available food wise at his old location. Well there was a treats but apparently it was garbage.
5- We’re expecting a 3rd child… HAHAHAHAHA!! Nah, just wanted to see if you were still paying attention.
6- Henry is getting tubes for his chronic ear infections. FINALLY! It’s happening on April 22nd and I can’t wait. I feel like this is going to be a huge game changer for us. He’s had ear/hearing problems for a long time due to fluid buildup and drainage issues which has affected his speech as well. I have high hopes that this surgery will basically open up a new world for him. I’m also nervous as hell. My little guy is going to be in surgery! Having a hard time wrapping my head and heart around that one. I had it done as a child as well so I guess that’s slightly reassuring in that I know what to expect for him, but still, I don’t think I can promise that I won’t cry when they wheel him into the OR.
Well I think that’s all the big stuff out of the way. Phew, that’s a load off my mind.