I’m not going to lie, I often find myself doubting my ability to parent. I’m constantly re-evaluating every move/decision I make in the name of my kids. Continuous second guessing. A few times a day I have to stop myself and take a deep breath before going off the frazzled deep end. I look over to Chris who seems to have an infinite reserve of parenting patience and he just seems to know what to say to Henry all the time.
And then, a few days ago, I had one of those “I am mama, hear me roar!!!” moments. One of those moments where I was able to think “I got this!”. I took both Henry and Freddy to the Valley View Animal Farm. My plan was to have Freddy in the stroller, and Henry walk next to me as we met the animals and walked the grounds. Both kids disagreed with this plan immediately with Freddy writhing around in the stroller like he was possessed and Henry trying to climb in the stroller and kick Freddy out. So I switched to plan B, put Freddy in the carrier and pushed Henry around. Things were going well and then Freddy started doing his “I’m getting hungry” song and dance. From where I was on the farm, there was no spot to sit down and feed and I knew Henry would start showing his toddlerhood if I stopped pushing the stroller. So, I pulled down my nursing top and fed Freddy in the carrier while I continued to push Henry in the stroller. I had always stressed out about the possibility of nursing in the carrier. Thinking “no way I’ll ever be able to do this” and when the time came, it just happened so naturally, with such ease, like I was meant to do this. It was very empowering. It made me realize, yeah, I can do this parenting thing. I may doubt myself, but when it comes down to it, it’s something that comes fairly naturally. I’m doing the best I can and my kids are turning out alright.
And that’s where you come in. Parents who are reading this, who may be at the end of their ropes and feeling like failures. I want you to know that I think you’re awesome. You’re doing the best that you can and that’s great! I hope you all can have a zen like moment that I had recently and realize that everything will be ok. Just keep doing what’s working for you and don’t overthink too much. Take everyone’s opinion on parenting with a grain of salt. Everyone is living different circumstances than you, so what works for them might not work for you and vice versa. Just keep doing what keeps your family healthy, safe and most importantly, keeps you sane!