I wish they had offered this course in high school. Yes, we did the flour baby thing but that was more of a fun game and didn’t involve so many decisions aside from “do I leave this in my locker or in my backpack”.
I had a sudden panic attack the other day after speaking with my mom on the phone. She was talking to me about all these issues she had with breastfeeding and colic issues when i was a baby and that’s when I realized, I may have read the ins and outs of pregnancy and even of labor, but after that, I know next to nothing.
Yes, I know the big issues/concepts like breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, however the extent of my knowledge on the subject is “experts say it’s best to breastfeed”. I don’t exactly know HOW to breastfeed, or how to know if I’m doing it right or not and if I can’t breastfeed for some reason, I know virtually nothing about bottle feeding a baby aside from “liquid goes in mouth”. What temperature? What angle? How much? How often? AACK!!
So now I’m reading a book called “the Mother of all baby books” that my sister Steph lent me back in July (and which I’m only cracking open now). It seems to have something on everything in there. I’ve only read the first 70 pages and already have been faced with major decisions such as:
1- Do we want a “babymoon” which is basically asking people to leave us alone with Mr. Bean for a few days so that we can adjust to being new parents without being bombarded by well wishing visitors. This was something that had never even crossed my mind. It seems like a logical thing to do but at the same time, there’s that social pressure to be “on” right away with people who want to come see the baby.
2- What are your cord blood plans? Yes, now you can store cord blood for all those rich stem cells for possible future use. Chris and I saw a few of these cord blood banks at the Ottawa Baby Show and weren’t very impressed with their sales tactics. It seems their method of sales fell in the “fear mongering” category. Such as “do you want to run the risk of your baby having leukemia and you having done nothing to prevent it…” That whole thing turned us off completely of paying large sums of money to store cord blood, however that doesn’t mean we’re not interested in donating it to research or those in need. It’s very useful blood and it bothers me knowing that the majority of it gets tossed aside with medical waste. We’ll have to do more research on that one.
3- Cloth vs Disposable diapers. This one was a no brainer for us and we’re going cloth all the way. We’ve already signed up for a diaper service which I read was actually more environmentally friendly than laundering cloth diapers yourself.
4- everything else. So now that I have those issues to ponder, others I’m worried about are “how will I bathe my child without drowning him” or “how will I change my baby without his head lolling backwards” or even “how will I know if he’s too hot or too cold”. So many questions for which I don’t feel as comfortable “winging it” like I did for my flour baby back in high school.
What I find even funnier is that with all these expert books out there on everything about parenting in the past 20 years or so, it makes me wonder how the hell we survived as a civilization up until now. I have this image in my head of a tired and angry cave woman pacing back and forth with her baby (who’s screaming his head off) while her partner is frantically flipping through the pages of “what to expect in baby’s first year” and yelling “I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! I CAN’T FIND ANYTHING IN THIS STUPID THING!!”